Meeting 3: aMaze!

Meeting 3:

Opening:

Girl Scout Sign, Promise and Law (Do It By Hand Game)

Game:

Back-to-Back (page 51 of leader guide)

Break the girls into pairs, trying to match partners of similar size.

The pairs should stand back to back, and lock their arms together. Each pair should slowly lower themselves to the floor without unlocking their arms, until they are sitting on the floor with their legs straight out in front of them. Now they need to raise up again, without unlocking their arms.

Once the pairs of locked, lowered and raised up, they have two pairs join together and do the same thing again. Once this has been accomplished, have the quartet groups merge with other quartet groups and lock, lower, raise. Keep this going until the entire group is joined together to accomplish this challenge.

Main Activities:

Where Do You Stand (page 52-53) Peer Pressure

  • Ask the girls to think about a time when they felt pressured and even pressured others to do things that were against their values. Ask questions to the group:

o   We all have experiences that test our values. Do we ever trade in what we believe in just so we can belong? How do we feel after doing that?

o   We also have times when we pressure others. Why? Can that sometimes be “for their owngood?”

o   Sometimes pressure can be good – can you give some examples? (if they need guidance… it could be to not be with a boyfriend who is abusive, or to give up a bad habit, or to study hard for a test instead of being on the internet all night)

o   Sometimes the pressure to do something you don’t want to do can be silent. Can you think of examples of silent pressure?

o   Have you ever accomplished something you didn’t think you would be able to do, but were able to do because of someone else’s influence?

  • Say: We are going to do an activity that is going to push one another to explore what it feels like to stand up for our values. We really have to trust one another and uphold our agreement that this is confidential and will be meaningful.
  • Take masking tape and make a line down the center of the room. On one end, set down piece of paper with “Agree” on it.On the other end, the “Disagree”, and in the center, “In the Middle.”

o   Explain that you will be reading a scenario and if they thinkit’s okay, they will go to the number 10. If they feel it’s not okay, they go to number 1. If they are “on the fence”, they go to number 5. Explain that they really should go to the number that they feel is right to them, and not where your friend or others in the group are going.

o   After each scenario, see if any girls want to share why she stood where she did. Do any of the girls want to persuade others to stand somewhere else? Why or why not?

  • For the girls standing “in the middle,” you can ask questions such as: Are you worried about taking a stand? What are your worries? Trying to please everyone? What would help you make a decision?
  • For the girls standing at Disagree, you can ask questions such as: Do you think there are things people could say or do that would make you inch your way down the line? What? How would you answer?
  • For the girls standing at Agree, you can ask questions such as: Do you think there are times someone could persuade you down the line? How?

Ending the Activity: Ask girls to sit down, and ask questions: Which scenarios really made an impression on you? How does this activity help you think about the effects of peer pressureand how you use your values to make decisions? Does standing up for a value make you feel like a leader? Why or why not?

Take Back the Power (page 61-62 of leader book)

Ask the question, “Why do people bully?” Girls respond. Sample answers could be:

  1. Because others do it.
  2. Because it’s what you have to do if you want to hang out in certain crowds.
  3. Because it makes them feel stronger, smarter, or better than the person being bullied.
  4. Because it keeps the person who is bullying from being bullied.

Ask the girls if they have seen bullying before. Ask them to name ways that they responded, or seen others respond, to bullying. Sample answers might be:

  1. Report it to a teacher, principal or other adult.
  2. Yell back.
  3. Walk away.
  4. Reason with the bully.
  5. Answer back calmly.
  6. Cry.
  7. Act like it doesn’t affect you.
  • Now ask: Which responses are the most effective? Guide the girls into a discussion on the pros and cons of the various responses.
  • Ask: Why do some kids get teased and others don’t? (Answer: Because the bully gets pleasure – an emotional payoff – from the target’s response. So kids who get upset become targets and those who shrug it off are left alone)
  • Make a point to let the girls know that when someone bullies you, your first instinct is to defend yourself because you are being attacked in some way. However, research shows that one effective defense is, in the moment that the bullying is happening, show that their insults don’t affect you.
  • If there is time, Read the examples on page 62 of the Leader Guide.

Closing

Friendship Circle (mention that we learned about bullying, and next week we are going to do some skits about bullying)

Supplies:

  • Cadette aMaze Leader Guide
  • Cadette aMaze book
  • Where Do You Stand Location Sheets (“Agree” “Disagree” “In the Middle”)
  • Where Do You Stand Scenarios Sheet